Jan 5, 2015

(Caution: For men only. The transactional & business metaphors are meant for humor and not to illustrate reality. Forgive me if they sound offensive to you.) 

If you’re at the stage in life where you often find yourself saying, “I’m not ready”, welcome to the group most of us men belong to.

If you’re a single professional, deciding to pursue and eventually marry a woman is like launching a new enterprise. You can never create a perfect business plan that guarantees success – one that enlightens you about the opportunity at hand, the hurdles along the way and the forecasted capitalization required.

Quite often, after months or even years of developing the product (yourself), you learn the hard way that the customer (the woman) does not need or want most features that you work so hard on.

Planning to figure out most of the unknowns first, before actually executing the idea will surely leave you old and wanting still. 

The ones that ultimately succeed go quickly from failure to failure – NOT relationship to relationship but life’s challenges - all the while maturing both in terms of character and skill as they continually learn from juxtaposing their experiences with God’s word.

There comes a point when the years of planning, research, bible-reading, praying and hoping must be followed up with IMPLEMENTATION.

Here are some suggestions on how you can go about it:

Step 1) Serve God

You’re going to be amazed by how many gorgeous women who love God serve in the church. And you'll have the privilege of serving with them.

Step 2) Pursue God

If you’d like to marry the beautiful woman you met in church and became friends with, understand that she finds a man who pursues God above everything else most attractive.

You might insist on doing other essential steps like: ocular inspection, market survey and gathering customer's feedback to see if the product development is at its right course but doing steps 1 and 2 should suffice, for now.

And if you keep doing steps 1 and 2 over and over and over again, something's going to develop in your heart that you never thought was there. It’s that deep longing inside of you that’s beginning to be satisfied. And then, you’ll realize how much God loves you and how much you desire to have deep intimacy with Him, knowing that it’s really Him who completes you and He’s the one you truly love.

Step 3) Ask God for His daughter’s hand in marriage.

Forgive me for the oversimplification but reaching Step 3 will be up to your faith and courage – heavy doses of it, and most importantly, God’s providence.

Don’t wait until you’re ready. You’ll never be. Rely on God and take courage. God’s favor – there’s such a thing and it will be with you as you commit and surrender everything to Him.   

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